Teenage is expected to be the best phase of our lives and the rainbows to this period are the “perfect”, “eternal” relationships. Sarcasm as it is, these immature relationships meet their bitter ends within a short interval from their inception. The relationship goals and expectations are not met and eventually lead to disappointments and the ‘breakups’.
Here are 6 reasons why teenage isn’t the best time to get in a relationship.
Hitting puberty is a recent development for the adolescents and being young and inexperienced leads them into believing that they know what’s best. They cannot be blamed completely, for the adrenaline rush sets up a new ‘high’ for them.
Getting attracted to the opposite sex, crushes and infatuations are very common – the genesis of the cute ‘boyfriends and girlfriends’ willing to sacrifice their “world” and their life for each other. This immaturity in both experience and emotions draws them into thinking that they are in love. The clouds of depression and devastation fill their skies then, leaving them with a low self-esteem when the relationship ends.
2. Fitting In
Teen love may be inseparable one day and broken up the next. The desire of getting noticed in high school, a way of fitting in, is also one of the reasons for the teen relationships. If you are in a relationship, then you fit in by default while the others have to try to find a reason to be accepted in the so called ‘elite’ group.
The love birds with cupid’s generous bows enjoy a roller-coaster ride with the best feeling of young love. But the first love is merely infantile and a sense of dependency exists which kills both the birds with a single stone. The urge to get noticed in high school, to be the ‘talk’ of the crowd (though denying it), the stereotypical mind leads the teens into thinking that they have become free from their peers’ expectations, but they are actually falling into the pit.
Teens in relationships tend to isolate themselves from the society. Hours are spent in chats and hanging out. This distances friends from them, which isn’t good for either of the two and neither for their other relations. It’s common to feel the need to be with their love all the time, but the isolation can be devastating after breakups. Parents can figure out the emotional destruction long before the teens can imagine. The instructions now become the barriers for them, which in turn become the platform for stress and them getting neglectful of their responsibilities. Also the complex from ‘best friends’ and possessiveness gives rise to obsession, eventually destroying the relationship. Keep Your friends near you, they do stay forever.
4. Communication and Commitment
“My baby, my shona, my cutie pie”; such love, such sweetness that no insulin can help you recover from, the days of future with all possible imaginations and commitments, promises to be together always in happiness and sorrow, in richness and poverty, as if the Padre has pronounced them a couple. The days of such profound love see the ugly side when the better half is unable to reciprocate those feelings and commitments. They worry so much about the future that they forget to live their present. The first love born out of infatuations takes time to open up completely. Communication plays a vital role in building trust and understanding between the partners. But when it’s unclear what you desire and long for, how would you be able to share it with the other. Patience is a gift not imparted to many, and this communication gap leads the other into perceiving lack of interest and comfort from you. If one fails to express even after a good amount of time, the things turn bitter.
5. Studies Hampered
Education is a wreck with teen relationships. Havoc wreaks in the school grades which are decisive of their future. Skipping school, bunking classes and even neglecting studies in order to spend time together diverts their focus.
Well, it is they who handed the ball in the challengers’ court by neglecting the necessary moves of their life. Daydreaming about their ‘love of life’ with no realization about how time flies away so quickly and getting engrossed in conversations with no sense of the surrounding creates a wrong impression on the society which is unacceptable to the parents. The climax of the story comes when after the breakup, the mental trauma starts which becomes difficult for most to cope up with.
6. Uncertainty about the Future
While thinking over their relationships’ future, teens forget to figure out their own future. High school is the platform for the real journey to start. The choice of career and the competitive environment leads them to different colleges, separating the lovers by physical distance and ultimately mental too.
These adolescent relations are unable to survive this and eventually drown with time. It’s not the teenagers’ fault that they were not mature enough to hold on. It’s not their age and they are not expected to be mature like adults. Time is the best teacher and healer. It’s a privilege to have someone who loves you and cares for you, but is it selfless or just mere attraction is for you to know.