Ever wonder what it is to be a single child? Well being an only child, I have taken it on myself to tell you how exactly it feels to be a single child. Being a single child has both pros and cons. And if you are a single child you know how we thank the Lord one moment for making us a single child, and curse him for the very same reason the next!
So here are the pros and cons of being a single child.
1.We get all the good stuffs!
Since our parents don’t have to spend more to buy two, three or seven of the same thing for all their children, we usually get the best of best things. We are usually those annoying kids at school, who has the ’75 Colours’ colouring set instead of the 42 one like everybody else! Sorry!
2. No Sharing!
Do you remember those times when you didn’t want to share something but your mother, very sternly said that you have to share it with your siblings? Well, I don’t! We single children never had to share anything with anybody at home. We had all the best things and we had it all to ourselves! Unless of course that annoying cousin visits. Then it’s just war and a lot of screaming!
3. Centre of attention.
There is nobody to steal the attention away from us. And let’s admit it! Every child wants their parents’ attention. There is no annoying brother to keep our mothers from taking us shopping or no annoying sister who takes up all of our fathers’ time! They are always looking out for us and only us! How amazing is that?
4. Having a room all to ourselves!
One room, usually the best one in the house, is all ours! We don’t have to deal with our brother’s half eaten pizza lying on the floor or our sister’s jewellery scattered all over the place. Nope. Our room is basically our kingdom! We rule over it! It is made as per our choices, keeping in mind our favorite colours. We can rearrange the furniture according to our convenience. We can put up posters of our favorite bands all over. And the best part, nobody to object!
5. Becoming Independent.
As the only child, we are, more often than not, left alone at home. This is the only reason we can do a lot of stuffs on our own. This is the only reason we are self sufficient. This is also the reason why we can never understand why you can’t do certain stuffs on your own. You tell us that you can make some snacks on your own and in our minds we go like “Whaaaat? How does he survive? Is he that useless” We aren’t judgmental, we just can’t understand how you are going on with life like a complete imbecile.
Jealous much? Well now let’s come to the cons.
6. Making mistakes.
As the only child, if we make a mistake, we can not blame it on anybody else and most probably never going hear the end of it! We break a glass today and a year from now our mothers will still not let us near anything that can break saying “Remember that time when you broke my favorite glass?” God Mom, that was one time! When will you get over it? Probably never because since it’s only one child’s mistakes that they have to deal with, it is easier for them to remember each and every on of them.
Even with all the pros of being a single child, the loneliness gets to us very badly. We have no one to share our thoughts with, except for a diary which can’t talk, feel or comfort us. We have no one to take advice from, we have no one to hold us when we are feeling down. And no matter how close we are to our parents, everyone of us knows that even if we are bursting to express, we won’t go to them, because we can’t scar them with reality!
We are the only child they have, so our parents get very over protective of us. And when I say very over protective, I mean VERY OVER PROTECTIVE. We are not allowed to remain out with friends for a very long time. We are not allowed to go on school trips. We are not allowed to anything remotely dangerous as having to come back from school alone if we ever have to stay back for some extra curricular work and miss the school bus, whose conductor has been specifically told to drop us right in front of our house. Trust me, it is suffocating! It gets very annoying and we can’t to anything about it. Unless our parents are like really cool, which seldom they are.
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