Humans are social animals.They tend to meet new people and make friends.People of similar ideas or mentality come closer and closer and somewhat form groups.
As a normal human conduct, even young children have a tendency of doing so. There are several divisions into which these young children are split into, which eventually with time turn into a nearly unalterable group. As children, we are not judgmental and so,
changing friend circle is a pretty ordinary thing for us. But with time, coming and going of new people in the set creates envy and jealousy.
We tend to get uncomfortable due to such transitions. Now, a problem starts here, what if, due to a course of time, due to some emotional and environmental variation, a person of a particular group wants to be in another group. Or they are a part of alliance just because it’s the most “popular”. And often, even when we’re in a huge group, between the most fun people, there is some kind of loneliness and absurdity. We start to feel that we no longer just fit in.
Dilemma Of Exclusion
So, what should we do in such situations? Just leave the set of people we are uncomfortable with or just let things go on the way they are. If we want to leave, then should it be slow and steady or just an abrupt dismiss? If we decide to stay, should we confront the people about our insecurities or just let the ignorance destroy us within?There are over seven billion people on this planet, so there cannot be a generalized answer for all. For most people, one of the above-given situation will come up. But some might actually find themselves in some absurd and unconventional situation.
Ideally, we shouldn’t stay with people we are not comfortable with.But practically, it all depends on whether we can interact and communicate with new people easily, can we abandon the set of people we have always been with, are we comfortable being in awkward situations till things settle down etc. For instance, if a person is an introvert, or just bad at communication, he or she cannot drastically bring about a change and walk up to new people and start interacting.
Breaking freeSo, at such walks of life, one should just sit back and think first. They should think about reasons for their discomforts and insecurities. Consequences of their switching pals and possible regrets on doing so. Often taking the advice of some experienced person or a good friend might help at this point. Then we should take things slow and steady, repairing some of the damages that may occur.
Our main motive should just be to be in a position where we are comfortable and content. Also, we must realise that there is no such thing as a “better” or “inferior” group. Just like we cannot say that a fish is better off in the sea than in river just because the sea is much bigger than it, we cannot judge plight of people in a group just because it’s COOL or POPULAR.