With every new sunrise, I tend to think that I am more mature and wise than I was yesterday. But am I really?
There are so many things I wish I knew when I was younger. Things that matter, things that do not. With time, you feel you are enlightened, but the question are you really enlightened comes in your mind simultaneously?
Taylor Swift’s song ‘fifteen’ is one such song that advise on the dilemmas you face when you are, well obviously, fifteen.
10. “Beta abhi padhai karlo, baad me life set ho jaayegi!”
If you haven’t grown up hearing this, then probably you are not a true Indian. Because, for us, education is the ultimate goal of life. But the irony is that life is never set. No matter how much you study, or not. When you are in school, parents will scare you regarding grades in unit tests and mid terms, then boards results. After you come to college society will start elaborating how hard it is to find a good job with satisfactory salary. But the best part is, you will be fine eventually. Everyone is. Just have faith in yourself.
9. “School days are the best.”
School days are indeed the golden days of your life. Enjoy them while they last. Have all the fun you can while at school. Cause those memories are the ones, you will hold onto for the rest of your lives. You will miss everything. Be it those boring, monotonous morning assemblies or waking up early and still missing the school bus. Be it those times when you bunked classes in the name of “Prefect duty” or when you were apprehensive about that homework you are so not going to submit. Or, those classmates that you hated from the core of your heart.
Those days when you fought with your class teacher for half a mark as if your life depended on it. That elation when a teacher is absent and the substitute teacher gives you a free games period. That ma’am who was your first class teacher, or that Sir who inspired you to choose your subject in college. Those lovely times won’t come back. And you will cherish them till your last breath.
8. “Carpe Diem.”
Always. Always follow these 2 magical words.
Be it a debate competition or a school trip to Manali. Do NOT miss it. Use your time smartly cause it is not going to come back. There is a right time for everything. The school excursions that you missed where you friends had immense amount of fun, that Annual sports day you did not go because you were not participating, but you later got to know that your class stood first. Those are the times that you are going to miss and regret. Do not miss these days, participate and show up, these days will not back.
Seize the opportunity, my friend. Kise pata kal ho na ho.
7. “True Friends are by Your Side until The End.”
Choose your friends wisely. If they are still there at your worst then you know they are the ones for life. But if they are not then no need of running after them or having any sort of expectation from them. They will always disappoint you. You will feel so much better once you let go of them. Crying for a friend, who shared her lunch with you, but who could not see your achievement or success or be it that friend who gossip about everything other than studies, you do not need them, trust me. Stay with the one who asks you to study, who asks you to take care of yourself, because no body is going to do that for you. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
6. “Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara.”
Life is not a movie. Cause it’s not scripted. The sooner you realize that, the better. You write you own script and your own ending. No one has the right to dictate you. You are not going to have a bunch of friends who will be there with you from your childhood till you get old. You are not going to marry that boy/girl who became your date partner when you are in school. You are not going to be an doctor or an engineer even if you fail on your boards. It is YOUR life.
Do not get indulged in silly fights with others just because they said something bad about you or your friend, it is who they are. Your fight is not going to change his/her behaviour towards others, they are going to stay the same. But what important for you is to stay generous and show them what you are.
Do not compete with others. You are unique. Your competition should always be with yourself.
5. Brain Over Beauty.
Superficial beauty will only get you so far. Be a beautiful person inside. I know it’s a materialistic world. But being intelligent and witty would get you much farther in life. Putting make up all over your face and going out with friends will not take you much further in life. You are hiding your own beauty, which no one will ever appreciate at least, at this age. Instead of that if a study an hour more, and complete tomorrow’s homework today, you will gain the knowledge of two days in just one day. Yes, even that cute guy you crush on would prefer you over a bimbo. (True story!) *wink*
4. Relationships and Breakups
Don’t get sidetracked by those butterflies in your stomach. You just like the person because you see most of the people of your age or elder to you, roam around with boys/girls in their free time, talk to them on their phone. It has nothing to do with love. You are not in love. Do not depend on a single person or make them the center of your universe. Cause you are eventually going to have to break up. No matter how perfect it seems, it is not meant to be. Those butterflies are not in your stomach but in your surrounding environment. It is just the urge to get big sooner. It is just the urge to make yourself feel like the other elder brother/sister you are looking at. And that is completely fine. Getting over someone is undoubtedly one of the hardest and most difficult thing you will ever have to do. But once you do it, you will emerge as an inviolable and resolute person.
3. “Haww! Woh daaru peeta hai.”
Don’t be so judgmental. Because you will probably end up doing every single thing that you judged. And that’s okay because that doesn’t make you a bad person. There will be a time when a friend of yours will talk about how he got drunk and fell asleep on his bedroom floor or how her mother caught her smoking on the balcony. You will probably puff on those cigarettes outside your college gate as well.
2. Say No to Potential Regrets.
It’s okay to say no. To anyone and everyone. Yes, even your parents.
To choose your career by your parents choice is probably the stupidest thing that you can do. Your parents will try to convince you harder since, all they care about your job security and all they want is secure future for you. But it is you, who knows yourself, you know which subject you are interested in , which subject you can carry forward. So, do not go by someone else’s decision. It is no shame to a be a Arts student and there is no pride in being a science student.
“I don’t want to be an engineer.” It is not that difficult. Say it.
“I don’t like science.” Convince them. They want you to be happy with whatever you do in life.
“I love her.” Have the guts to fight for what you believe in.
1. Never Ever Give Up.
The sun sets only to rise again. Once you fail a class or a test, it does not mean that you are a bad student. No one is a bad student. It is just that you did not understand the topic or the matter that you wrote about, there is no big issue in that. A Cardiologist does not know what is the only novel of Oscar Wilde, but a professor does. Never demotivate yourself, always believe that if they can do it why can not you. Your entire life can not be bad, but a phase of your life can be. At this age, you will have people who will give you unnecessary advises or try to distract you from your studies or even try to befriend you by saying that you are failure too just like them. These are the people who have no aim in life, all they want to do, is just waste their energy and time by doing nothing. A bad day or period can last only so long. Spectacular days would follow!