The society I live in is all hyped with ideas of feminism, anti-corruption, environment preservation, literacy, homosexuality and many others. Rarely do I hear someone talking about parenthood, a non-biological parenthood. I have hardly seen anyone considering adoptive parenthood as normal or regular; let alone fighting for it. The parents of this kind whom I know tend to either hide it from their children as long as possible or tell them from the very beginning that their family is ‘different’ from others through which they try to prepare then from the future social inequality which they may encounter.
It is sad that we still consider adoptive parenthood as the lesser alternative. So, here are some reasons why we should start thinking differently.
For YOUR good:
- Infertility and cost of IVF:
Infertility, as we all know, is becoming more frequent these days. But the definition of infertility does not include loss of desire for children. Technological advances have given us powerful alternative ways for natural birth – IVF. Yet, till date the cost of IVF is much high for the commoners. An open mind for adoption can solve this very effectively.
- Problems of Child Birth:
It is need less to mention the intensity of pain a woman in labor has to go through. Added to that there can be other medical problems during and after child birth as well – not everyone can have a ‘normal and regular’ child birth.
The time of legal paper works is often less than the gestating period. Your countdown will be very short and more certain. There must be no worry for a mishap or loss.
- Career Orientation:
Today we find a lot of people who are career oriented and cannot afford all the physical, psychological and social drama of pregnancy. Adoption also gives you a wider scope and biological age relaxation – you do not have to hurry or worry if your ‘biological clock is ticking’. You can take your time to settle in your career and can adopt a child even in a later stage of life.
[N.B: For the child’s better future, there is still an age limit up to which you can adopt.]
- Age of Adopted Child:
Again, because we have more nuclear families today and a large group of those live away from their close older relatives, it can be harder for a new parent to take care of an infant. Adoption agencies often allow you to choose a child from your convenient age group.
- Single Parenting:
Our society does not give a good welcome to a child who is born before wedlock. But in the same society there exists people who do not believe in the institution of marriage. But that does not mean that those people do not deserve to have a family of their own! With some existing legal restrictions, India allows a single/unmarried person to adopt a child.
- Employee’s Leave:
In India, an adoptive parent or parents receive maternity or/and paternity leaves just as equal to any biological parent – even if you adopt an older child.
For the GREATER good:
Well, needless to say, the world, especially India can really use some population control. We have so much human resource supply on Earth that it is surpassing the demand and hence the cost of human resource is getting reduced significantly.
- Care for a human:
Adoption shows your humane spirituality. One may doubt the love between an adoptive parent and an adoptive child. Even if you think that you will not be a good parent; remember, the chances are higher that your child will have a better life with you than in the orphanage. Although, it has often been found that within a family, an adopted child is loved and pampered more.
- Female adoption:
This is a current trend in India where we see that in case a person or a couple decides to adopt a child, given a choice, they prefer a female one. This is a very good and inspiring deed in today’s India which is facing problems of female feticide, reduced sex ratio, gender inequality and violence against women. A celebrity like Sushmita Sen has her contribution in this regard.
But a huge issue still remains – the ‘gene’ issue. If I do not procreate, how do I leave my trails on the surface of the Earth? Well, this is very easy if we really think into it! Life is monogenetic, remember? We all have common ancestors. Once, in the forgotten past, we all evolved from the same Homo sapiens. We still are the same Homo sapiens – let’s not lose your ‘Homodom’ (Eng. Wisdom).