People make the teenage years seem like a fairy tale, but little do they mention about all the hardships that a teen faces, be it at home, at school or college, at a party or wherever be it. Life is never completely easy. So here’s a list of hardships that teenagers face.
1. School/College Can be a Mess
According to most teens, school is the numero uno reason for their stress. Teens face the problems of bad grades, setting high expectations for themselves but failing to reach them, multiple projects and assignments, burning the midnight oil in order to ace an exam, etc. It is necessary for teens to try and bring out a balance between going to school and, doing all the other things that they love doing. Going to school cannot be avoided but if it is thought of as a fun learning process, it will be enjoyable rather than stressful.
2. Do You Have Self-Confidence?
After looking at the various other people that teens think are way better than them, (we beg to differ because every individual is beautiful in his/her own way) the teenagers start developing inferiority complexes which can degrade their self-confidence. As teens, we always tend to get saddened about how there is always a set of people who are way better than us at doing things. It is absolutely necessary that we understand how they might not be good at things that we’re good at. Self-acceptance should be the motto of teens nowadays, thus accepting themselves just for the person they are- socially, superficially, mentally, or emotionally.
3. Lack of Inspiration
Teenagers suffer from the lack of inspiration to achieve a predetermined goal or dream. They sometimes become unable to derive inspiration from the people around. This is unfortunate because in order to achieve something, you should be inspired and determined enough to actually do it. Therefore, it’s absolutely necessary for teenagers to walk up to the parents, grandparents, neighbors or basically just anyone, looking for inspiration. There’s also always the internet, for reading up on life-stories of great hard-working people and how they coped up with life and its challenges.
The teenage years are when we tend to become extremely curious about how the universe and the various things in it (mostly peculiar) things work. We’re almost always curious about what alcohol tastes like, what smoking a cigarette feels like, what watching pornography is all about, what drugs feel like, etc. While curiosity is healthy otherwise, being curious about the aforementioned things is definitely unhealthy for the body and the mind alike. Trying these things out might later turn into addictions that slowly eat your health up. It’s wise to stay away from those substances.
5. Peer Pressure
Getting acquainted with many people and having innumerable friends is always good, but if they end up forcing you into doing something that you do not like, it’s time to stay away from them or make them understand that you do not like it. Most teenagers face the problem of their friends forcing them to try smoking, drinking or going to a party. It’s vital for teens to voice their thoughts out to their friends and make it clear that they do not want to indulge in that particular act, and even after that if they don’t listen, it’s really time to let go of them, because friendships should have a positive impact on you and not negative.
Some teens have the unfortunate experience of getting bullied. Bullying has a strong impact on the mental development of a child, thereby leaving him/her scarred for the rest of his/her life. Strict action and precaution should be taken against the people who bully. Teenagers who get bullied should try and let it not affect them and try to fight back and voice their thoughts out loud, without physically retaliating. They should also go report to the people with the authority to take action against the people who bully. They should try and get past their scarring experience and try to move on, only to live a better life.
7. Getting abused
Some teenagers get abused, be it domestically, physically, verbally, sexually or emotionally. They should fight back if they can, or they should get the help of a close friend or family member.
8. Not being “popular”
We all want/wanted to be known by everyone in the college. We look at the popular kid in school and envy him/her and wish to be just as popular. Sometimes, people even try desperate means to try and become popular. Thus, teens these days end up becoming sad over not being popular.
Teenagers must learn how it’s important not to waste time, effort and money on trying to be popular and how popularity doesn’t really fetch you any happiness deep inside, and it isn’t here to stay. It will fade in a few years. The same time and effort can be spent on something that will actually help in the future. Make and maintain a small circle of quality friends that you can rely on, no matter what, and they are all you need.
Teenagers go through heartbreaks and emotional phases when they get into relationships, or sometimes even drama. Teenagers must use plenty of time to think about whether or not they actually want to be in a relationship and they should make sure it won’t eat too much of their time because it’s also important for them to spend their time doing the other important things and maintain personal relationships with their friends and family. They shouldn’t let heartbreaks get in the way of anything in the future.
10. Experiencing something traumatic
Some teenagers have been unfortunate enough to witness the death of a close family member, friend, or acquaintance, or to witness or actually be a part of an accident or a disastrous scene. Incidents like these scar the teenagers and end up leaving them wounded. Death affects them the most. They should understand how death is inevitable and separation is also a part of life.
11. Transitions- Physical or Mental
There come all the physical changes like the growing of facial hair for guys, growing of bodily hair, and all the other changes that follow. The teens sometimes find it difficult to adapt to the physical changes. There also come the mental changes, with respect to all the sudden mood swings that are not only due to the changes in the proportions in hormones, but also because of all the stress that a teenager faces.
It is important for them to learn to embrace the physical changes because everybody is beautiful in their own way, and the mental changes only if they are for the good.
All in all, teenage years are no cake-walk. Honestly, there is no phase in life that comes problem-free but we should all learn how to deal with those problems and not let them get the better of us.
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