CHANGE is needed not only in our political system, government laws but also in the practical phases of our lives. In our day to day chorus, we are so much preoccupied by the loudness, that we almost overlook these common facts that needs a change RIGHT NOW!
EXCEPTIONS ARE NOT EXAMPLES!!
Here are #6 facts, beliefs, habits and thinking that needs to change for the betterment of mankind and humanity.
- Every year on February, our FB profiles, twitter wall, gets flooded with anti-valentines day messages and quotes. This year also the same thing happened, but there was this one post which really made me angry, or rather ashamed of those people who are actually spreading such absolutely lies. The message was-
I mean how can people be so careless and adamant that to support their hatred against V-DAY they actually spread such filthy rumors. And that too on those heroes, who fought against the Britishers and sacrificed their lives, just to ensure us a happy and sound sleep, free from the slavery and shackles of the BRITISH RULE. Its, okay, that you don’t like V-DAY or you think it to be an OTT day, but please, for GOD-SAKE don’t spread such rumors, especially on such delicate issues. Respect the Martyrs, don’t take advantage of them and their sacrifices!
2. Lame and unrealistic TV SERIALS-
TV serials and their unrealistic portrayal of things, should be stopped now. What you are trying to portray, that leaving your career, your aim and running after your love is the ultimate moto?? Or falling off from the cliff and coming back after some months is real?? Well, our Indian Television really needs a heavy make over in their thinking. I mean for how long, that same old script of-
a small town career oriented girl falling for a rich brat, not able to marry the love of her life because her best-friend too loves the same guy and she decide to ruin her married life by creating unnecessary problems ( Bidding adieus to her so-called career, which was once the main aim in her life),
and the vamp who keeps on peeping through the door and over-hears conversations and duh! Nobody even notices it. BLIMEY!!
Please come up with some realistic ideas rather than themes like naag couples giving birth to ichadhaari naggins ( How are they actually born- as humans or snakes), or the ideal bahu acting insane and getting electric shocks just to save her mother-in-law ( I mean how can this happen that a fake person comes dressed up as one of the family member and nobody identifies her except the bahu). Enough of this over the top acting, cheesy scripts and dialogues, please spare us! Take a clue from those Pakistani Serials, which are based on social issues with a definite ending. At-least they don’t portray the regular saas-bahu concept, neither do they provide us with false beliefs like- RUNNING AFTER YOUR LOVE IS MUCH MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR CAREER!
3. Stop scaring your child in the name of Hostel and Boarding Schools-
“Look son/daughter, if you don’t behave and do your work properly, we will send you to boarding school”. And thus, the child started having this stereotyped and false notion about Hostel and Boarding school that kids who are disobedient are sent their as a form of punishment. There the kids are punished, punished, and only punished… BLIMEY!
Hostel and Boarding schools are really good, and teaches one to lead an independent cum disciplined cum interestingly motivated life. I have seen my little brother, being sent to boarding school at a very young age. And the *breaking news* is, he went there all on his own wish, not as a form of punishment. It’s a request, stop scaring children in the name of hostels, ghosts, spirits, and even GOD, don’t give them this unnecessary and false notions about these things. By doing this (scaring them), you are actually making them judgmental about certain concepts and beliefs.
4. Divorce-More of a publicity stunt than a personal issues
Yeah! You read it right, divorce is more of a publicity stunt than of something serious. In reality, real life couples have become so obsessed with the reel life couples, that they almost end up following them without even giving a second thought. The rate of divorce (especially in India) has increased rapidly in the past few years. Reasons- Miscommunication, Lack of freedom, trust issues, no compatibility, etc. But, I have a question, can’t these issues be solved?? Where is the love that once blossomed like a beautiful red rose?? I know, roses are beautiful, but they have thorns too, but we don’t stop buying or liking them, instead we cut all the thorns and throw it far away. Life is not a Bollywood tale, it’s reality, which has ups and downs, but every sky has a silver lining too. Look for solutions, life will become easier and happier.
5.log kya kahenge (What will people say)
As Sir Chetan Bhagat said-
We Indians (EXCEPTIONS are not examples) are over-hyped and really inscrutable at times. We become so obsessed that, we forget what we think. If a girl is working late night in a BPO, then OMG! that girl is really doing something wrong.
Yes, she is doing wrong, she working hard days and nights, just to ensure herself and her family a healthy and secured future.
If a boy starts driving OLA or UBER just to earn his own living and not be dependent on his parents anymore, then – “Aree, have you heard that Mrs. Banerjee’s son, he is working as a driver now, I wonder what their financial condition is”. “Breaking News” he is not working there because of his families poor condition, but to earn his own living and be independent.
Its so scary, that people in India, are really expert in putting a label or judging you by your profession. Hello! Working in a BPO or as a cab driver, is not at all an easy or disrespectful job. And for your kind information, even Akshay Kumar during his early days sold “kundan jewelleries” worked as “peon”, as a “light-man”, as a “waiter”, etc, all, just to earn his own living and survive. It’s a message to all budding artists and all those who aspire to be independent, don’t pay heed to what your Samaritan neighbor has to say, close your eyes, take a deep breathe and move ahead. Once you become something, they will stop automatically!
6. I can sleep Englis, I can drink Englis, I can eat Englis, ENGLIS, ENGLIS–
“My son Rohan can’t even a speak a word in bengali/hindi. He only reads English novels, and likes English movies” . Haven’t you heard this, well I heard it many times. It’s actually very shameful, that your son/daughter is unaware about their own mother tongue. We have this notion that speaking in our mother tongue will make us “uncool” and English will definitely make us look “branded” . And not only this, even, some elderly people when they try to speak in English with full of mistakes, those highly educated English students or people actually mock them rather than correcting them.
Teaching your child the value of English is good, but not teaching them their own language is bad. Like really bad. It’s, true that English is a widely acceptable language throughout the world, be it in interviews, or in any kind of official meetings, English vocabulary is needed. But parents, please, do teach your children the importance of his/her mother-tongue. Speak with them in your local language at home, give them books to read, make them listen to musics (all in your mother tongue). Remember-
So, these were some of the really practical facts that must be busted out from the society. All these point mentioned are my own views and thoughts, no personal intention to hurt anyone’s sentiments.
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