Healthy flirting is good for the soul, we all know that.
But if the flirting is to be successful and lead to anything more, certain rules need to be followed.
Of course, there are exceptions to every rule, and following rules in no way guarantees success. Still, if we’re going to do this at all, we might as well do it right, mightn’t we? Having a handy guidebook is always better than going in blind!
For the love of all that is holy, use some mouth freshener. There is nothing less appealing than a burst of bad odour every time you open your mouth to speak (or to do anything else, if you get my drift)
If a girl (or guy) gives you their number, it is not an open invitation to keep texting them continuously at all hours of the day. You really do not need to know their breakfast, lunch and dinner menu every single day. Calm down and take a breath. Find something to do with your life that doesn’t involve a cell phone or a computer.
Playing Hard To Get
Sometimes this can be appealing, but only for a very short period of time. If you really aren’t interested, say that – kindly, but clearly. If you are, say that too. Blowing hot and cold every other day gets really old, really fast!
Everyone likes to feel important, but there is a limit to that. Treat your crush like an adult capable of making their own decisions, not a child needing to be spoon-fed and wrapped up in a blanket every night. That’s not hot. That’s annoying.
Now this is VERY important. Whether you are a guy or a girl, DO NOT EVER demand gifts from your crush (or partner). It doesn’t matter how much you love them, or how much they love you, that kind of behaviour sends out major warning signals to the other party. Also, it’s super annoying!
Beating Your Own Drum
You might be super-rich, super-smart, super-hot and basically God’s gift to mankind, but even if you do feel that way, please refrain from voicing those opinions when trying to flirt.
A person who keeps on and on blabbering about themselves and their own achievements is always a major turn-off. Even the most introverted person wants someone who would listen to them, at least, some of the time.
Gushing About Your Exes
There are few things that would dash your chances at a relationship faster than going on and on about your past relationships. If possible, just avoid the topic. Good or bad, that is just not something your crush needs to hear about – at least not until an actual relationship is on the horizon.
Trying Too Hard
People can always tell when you’re trying too hard to impress them, when you’re not being yourself and pandering to their tastes instead. Don’t do it. It makes you look cheap and inauthentic, and eventually causes the attraction to fizzle out anyway. There is nothing appealing about insecurity.
Well, now that you know what not to do, go out there and get ready to sweep your crush off their feet (and into your arms, hopefully)!